Hello world. The following was written 12/09/2016.
A brother posted a meme today that said, “How nice would it be to have someone be so in love with you and just wants you all the time.”
My response, “There are two sides to this. Consider this idea from all sides. Place yourself as the one giving of the love, then as the one receiving it. Now, consider this, you do not feel the same way, as the one giving to you. They love you, just not in the same way or as deeply.
Now put yourself in the others place, of receiving the love and not feeling the same way as you. It is a mixed bag. May I suggest learning, to love yourself first. When you love yourself unconditionally, you learn to love others in the same way. In doing so, you teach others how to love you and how to love themselves.
I have been there loving someone, in the way you described. Problem is, they did not feel the same. This caused, a lot of pain for me. I had thousands of thoughts, running through my mind. Thoughts about unworthiness and a belief, I and my love were a burden. I wasn’t what they wanted, needed and desired, so how could they really love me? Especially, the way I loved them. Are they with me now, because of pity, guilt and loneliness?
This kind of shit, ate at me day and night. All because my love, was not being returned in the same way, I was giving it. I was giving, to get from them. I wasn’t loving them, unconditionally. My conditions were laid out in my desire for the love I was giving, to be given back to me. When my conditions were ignored, I threw a tantrum. I cried and whined. I kept thinking, I was supposed to have some kind of fairy tale kind of love. This was my mistake. I was seeking, an illusion.
I had to learn to love myself first unconditionally, exactly as I am, without judgments. To look past the shell of my body and see my own Soul, inside or within me. When I could do this, I could then see the Soul in those around me. I stopped seeing, their shells or body. I stopped seeing, the mask on the surface. I could finally see and accept, the Soul within the shell. I learned to love myself unconditionally and in doing so, I am now able to love my brothers unconditionally.”
Blessings on your journeys my brothers. Hugs and love. You are loved. I love you.