Hello world. The following was written 12/09/2016.
A brother posted a meme today that said, “How nice would it be to have someone be so in love with you and just wants you all the time.”
My response, “There are two sides to it. Consider this idea from all sides. Place yourself as the one giving of the love and then as the one receiving it. Now, consider this, you do not feel the same way as the one giving to you. They love you, just not in the same way or as deeply. Now put yourself in the others place of receiving the love and not feeling the same way as you. It is a mixed bag. May I suggest learning to love yourself first. When you love yourself unconditionally, you learn to love others in the same way. In doing so you teach others how to love you and how to love themselves.
I have been there loving someone in the way you described. Problem is they did not feel the same. That caused a lot of pain at first for me. I had thousands of thoughts running through my mind. Thoughts about unworthiness and a belief that me and my love were just another burden. I wasn’t what they wanted, needed, and desired so how could they ever really love me. Especially the way I loved them. Are they with me now because of pity, guilt and loneliness?
That kind of shit ate at me day and night. All because my love was not being returned in the same way I was giving it. I was giving to get from them. I wasn’t loving them unconditionally. My conditions were laid out in my desire for the love I was giving to be given back to me. When my conditions were ignored, I threw a tantrum. I cried and whined. I kept thinking I was supposed to have some kind of fairy tale kind of love. That was my mistake. I was seeking an illusion.
I had to learn to love myself first unconditionally exactly as I am without any judgments. To look past the shell that is my body and see my own Soul inside or within me. When I could do that I could then see the Soul in those around me. I stopped seeing only their shells or body. I stopped seeing the mask on the surface. I could finally see and accept the Soul within the shell. I learned to love myself unconditionally and in doing so I am now able to love my brothers unconditionally.”
Blessings on your journeys my brothers. Hugs and love. You are loved. I love you.