When it comes to the child, you ARE the example, from which they learn.

Hello world. The following was written 1/5/2019.

I shared an article called, “Come One, Come All, it is time to play a game, called Connect the Dots.”, yesterday. A brother responded to my article last night or this morning, asking some questions. The following is the dialogue which transpired.

A brother asks, “Greetings Sabrina I trust you are well.

Please indulge me as I have wanted to ask someone that walks ACIM. What about children? Are we not responsible for them? I really want to know and at the same have been terrified to ask anyone that does this. I am being completely honest and mean no disrespect. I too know the Holy Spirit and when I listen to your words in my mind I see myself at times (often times). So I have drummed up the courage to ask. PM if best. You certainly don’t have to respond. I will not be slighted in any way.

I am glad you are here. Truly”

My response, “Hello brother. I keep all dialogues out in the open, for all to witness. What is helpful for one, may be helpful for another. Children are capable of conscious choices, decisions and understanding, on multiple levels of their Being. Children have Free Will, just as adults do. This does not mean, one may use, abuse nor manipulate a child in ANY way, without some form of consequence for doing so. This is what karma, is there for. It balances the playing field, with the lessons we are here to learn.

Children are to be loved, UNCONDITIONALLY. They are to be allowed to explore their world, environment and reality, up to a point without hindrance. It is when they risk harm to themselves or another, intervention may be made. Just as you needed to learn fire burns, so too does the child. Being told something is hot, is not the same as the experience of it. Do you understand what is being shared, about consciousness and Free Will?”

My brother responds, “So we are responsible for our children and their safety? Sabrina Reyenga”

My response, “Up to a point, we are responsible for their safety. Safety being physical harm unto death, To a Point. Understand, each Being chooses to manifest within this reality of creation, comes in under a set of guidelines or a “Contract” they have created. Sometimes the “Contract” is created with you, prior to your incarnation into this reality. These “Contracts” can and may be altered up to a point, while we are on our journeys. Because of our Free Will to choose what resonates for us, we are able to change our minds and choose something else instead. Nothing is set in stone and nothing, is as it may seem. All we have been taught to perceive, are egoistic fear filled judgmental perceptions of what everything is and is supposed to be, including ourselves.

Children begin making obvious choices, which are discernable around age 3. They begin making their choices known verbally, around 4 or 5. It is between the ages of 6 and 10, children start making their own decisions and recognizing what resonates within them fully as “good” or “bad”, in a manner of speaking.

All the child learns, comes from the adults around them. What the adults teach, they teach consciously and UNCONSCIOUSLY. Everything you are and have been trained, to think, judge and so perceive, unconsciously you teach to the child. What you teach them to do, is judge and to fear being judged. You do this unconsciously, and unknowingly you are manipulating the child to conform to what it is, you have chosen to believe is True in those moments you do so.

It is the subconscious mind, which is actually in the driver’s seat, as your Ego brother. When you recognize this, you are able to take your power back, by taking control and getting back into the driver’s seat, of deciding what resonates or not for you. Understand, EVERY Experience is for our benefit and through us, all of Humanity. Each experience has lessons within it, we are to learn of ourselves. If it is not something we are to experience, we do not go through it.

Consider the Beings around you and all they seem to experience and go through. All of you are experiencing the exact same things, to different degrees or levels. Each of you are perceiving your experiences, in different ways and from different points of view. Yet, they are all similar with similar lessons, to be learned from them.

An example of this would be, my Husband Alex and myself. Our experiences growing up, were very similar, yet very different. His family was mentally, emotionally and physically abusive, as was mine. He experienced beatings, bullying and the same conditional love, I had experienced. Yet his perspective and how he views himself and others, is very different from how I view things. He is able to perceive the external connections or the catalysts which cause the triggers. I am able to perceive the internal seeds which have caused those triggers to the catalyst. He sees without and I see within. We perceive from opposite sides of the spectrum, yet are able to connect, comprehend and perceive what each other is experiencing and coming from, on our own perspective journeys.

Both of us, had to learn to accept and allow how we experience and perceive, is similar yet not the same. In raising our son, we have had to do the same with him. We have had to learn, to accept and allow he is his own Individual Being and will make choices for himself. We DO NOT get a say, in these choice he is making. He understands he is responsible for himself and whatever it is he is going through, he is the one making the choices to believe so perceive as he is. We taught our son to question everything, including us. We taught him to think for himself and to not, blindly follow and believe. He just finished 8 years, in the military. He came to recognize, they do not want Free Thinkers, but sheep to do their bidding unquestioningly, so he got out. In all things, we accepted and allowed him to decide for himself, what it was HE wanted to do.

It is this same perspective one is asked, to teach their children. In all things, they are the one in the driver’s seat, making the choices and decisions to do what they do, think what they think and believe what they are choosing to believe in. What they experience, is entirely up to them and what they choose. In the beginning, we are no more than a caregiver. We feed, house, clothe and care for them, until they are able to do so for themselves. Meaning feed, clothe and do every day items for and by themselves such as going to a store and buying food.

Something else to consider, whatever is being experienced has a purpose and reason behind it, beyond what we my understand or comprehend in those moments. How we the caregiver are choosing to perceive it or judge it as being, will be what we teach the child of it. It is the JUDGMENTAL PERSPECTIVE which is being TAUGHT to the child, which will dictate the lessons they are to learn, if they choose to accept what is being handed to them, as being True in those moments.

Do you see how each experience, is connected to a lesson of learning what it is we choose to believe, so experience and perceive our reality as being? How each experience is connected, to what we are judging it to be, based on how we have been trained to believe? This is the point which is in need of understanding here. You only get to choose for you. When it comes to the child, you ARE the example, from which they learn.”

Blessings on your journeys my brothers. Hugs and love. You are loved. I love you.