Hello world. The following was written 6/20/2017.
I have found myself having conversations of late with my brothers regarding closed groups, open groups, public posts, private posts, and open dialogues verses private messages. In each of these conversations my brothers bring up their fears. Fears of someone seeing whatever it is they may post and share if a group is open to the public. Fears what they post may cause upset.
All of these things come from a fear of being judged and found wanting or lacking. They come from a belief someone else gets a say in who it is you choose to be and how you choose to express yourself. Our fear of judgment is the tool being used against us and by us.
Every label we call ourselves by was handed to us by someone else. If one were to write down every label they name themselves to be they would be shown the things they think themselves to be. If one were to truly look at those labels, what do each of them have in common? First, they were handed to you by someone else. Second, each is a judgment and an opinion. Third, each label has rules, definitions or laws attached to them. These definitions signify exactly who, what, when, and even where one is “supposed to be” according to the definition being given it.
Each of these definitions enclose us and trap us in a box of our own making. By accepting these judgmental labels as defining who and what we are and are supposed to be, we damn ourselves to a life of Hell incarnate. We find ourselves trying to live up to an unrealistic definition and expectation created by someone else.
With every label we accept, we distort the Truth of who we really are. The image we begin to perceive of ourselves becomes twisted and grotesque in the most traumatic of ways. Each of those labels are a judgment being handed to us by someone else. Each one was created to get us to hand away our Free Will to choose what resonates within our own minds and hearts as being Truth for us.
It is our beliefs in these labels as defining who we are and are supposed to be which is causing all of our pain and suffering. The judgments we have taken in are what we define ourselves with and are terrified of. Each one has us conforming to someone else’s dictates. To choose to be different is to choose pain and suffering at the hands of another. It is how we have been trained to propagate our victim hood again and again.
It is our belief in the judgments and opinions being handed to us which keeps us locked in a cage of fear. The fear of being judged. Of being found out we are not and can not be those labels which have been handed to us.
If we choose to look within we would see these moments for what they were, controlled manipulations. If we begin questioning what we were taught, we would then question as to why. Why did I blindly follow and believe what was said to me as being true? If we choose to look within at our experiences we would see when we accepted these judgmental labels. We would also recognize many of them were accepted when we were children. We accepted them to stop the punishments, ostracism, mental and emotional abuses. The love withheld when we did not conform fast enough to the dictates of those around us.
The next question which arises is, why did they do this? The answer, like you they never stopped to question what was being taught to them. Like you they chose to accept it, to stop their own pain and suffering, just as you have. Then why do they continue to believe as they do? If they no longer have to, why do they? Unlike you, they never bothered to question what they were taught so instead choose to repeat the patterns learned unbroken.
The box we find ourselves in, is of our own making. It is not until we choose to begin questioning the labels, we see the locks which were binding us. Those labels and the belief in them are what has kept us trapped in the Hell of our own creation. If we want to be free, we must free ourselves. We must go within and seek the Truth within us with Holy Spirit and God above. When we seek the answers with them, the answers will always be given.
Blessings on your journeys my brothers. Hugs and love. You are loved. I love you.