Hello world. The following was written 7/20/2015.
Had a situation come up were the Hubby’s Ex’s started coming out of the wood work. They would start in with private messages and then move into wanting to meet up secretly. Say how they wanted to be friends with me, his wife, yet would never reach out to me for friendship. When conflict would arise they would make suggestions of meeting up or coming over as long as I am not there. How the light begins to dawn when he realizes they were never being honest in what they wanted. How they were looking for someone to save them from themselves and it did not matter who it was they would be hurting in doing so.
When does trust fall away? When we recognize our trust has been betrayed. What qualifies as a betrayal? Whatever we “perceive” of another’s failures. Failure to provide. Failure to perceive we should come first in any relationship between Beings. Failure to forgive. Failure to agree. Failure to love unconditionally. Seeing their willingness to walk away from everything you have made together. A home and life built on fantasies and dreams.
All crumbles with a text from an ex or a new friend they met, while out with friends. They see not the intent reflected in their mirror as they get ready to leave. Until you tell them you know what’s been happening. Then everything becomes crystal clear. When the friend then calls and tells you they don’t want to visit. Why not? Because your life is no longer falling apart. They don’t say the words, but give an excuse. Suddenly you see it was all a ruse.
It finally comes to you, friendship was not what they wanted. The intent was always there, clear in their eyes for all to see. They are only friends with you as a safety net and what they can get for free. Their words and actions show their intent. It is our own unwillingness to see the Truth of this intent. We want to see and perceive people lovingly. They are only looking out for our best interests. They care about us and love us.
It is these same people who show shallowness, greed, envy and hatred for others. They want to use you and abuse you for the comedy of others. Not everything is based on jealousy and spite. Sometimes it is just about what we want to project out to the world at large. See us? We are so happy! Aren’t we perfect?
Sometimes we see ourselves in our brother’s plight. We have been through the things they are going through. We remember how we used to think in a similar vein. The world is out to get me. Making us feel insane. Trust was foreign to us in those moments. All we knew, is we had to do whatever we could to survive. It did not matter who we used and hurt, in the process of getting where we think we wanted to be.
Getting the trust back is possible. It is learning to share everything. What you are thinking and feeling. What you experience at any given moment. Holding nothing back and talking about all of it. It is this sharing which reconnects and heals the bonds of trust. To be able to listen to your partner or brothers and hear where they are without judging them for it. Accepting them completely as they are even if they change. It is seeing them as your equal in everything.
Trust is established in sharing your heart. Be honest. Be open. Be willing to be vulnerable. The Truth will set you free. It will allow you to be you. To trust in yourself and who you are. Your heart speaks more clearly than any words your head makes up.
When I trust myself, I am able to hear where my brother’s are and connect with them there in understanding. I am learning to Trust, they too will heal as I have healed. They will learn to Trust in themselves and no longer need the judgments of others to validate their being here. To no longer look at their brother’s as just another paycheck. Instant Daddy or Mommy fill in. A means to an end or another step on the path to success.
The world is not out to get us. We only believe it in our heads. Everything we go through is for our benefit. It is the outcome of the choices we make. It is the way we choose to perceive all of this, which is our true free will. Trust is letting go the belief of a fear which is holding you back from connecting fully to your partner and brothers.
Blessings on your journeys my brothers. Hugs and love. You are loved. I love you.